Knock knock...who's there? It's a joke right? Everyone seems to be able to get it. You simply just have to respond with your name and it's joke over, small talk done. However, you freeze after you're asked who's there because you feel like your identity has been stripped from you after every 'knock' ; to the point where you are scared of coming to terms with the fact you feel like there is nobody there.
Each time you step out, you make every effort to straighten your crumbling spine, coat your bruised skin and perhaps plaster on a smile as an attempt to heal your wounded heart. With your moral survival kit you go about your daily activities carefully. The aim is that nobody will suspect your wounded heart and its causes.Once that's done, you go back behind closed doors. Another 'knock'.Another hit.Another blow, again, again and again. You took it because they told you it is your fault and you believe it.
Please stop believing them. I am here to tell you it is not your fault, you are beautiful and you are of value. It is nobody's right to steal and strip your self love from you. This is for the man that is made to feel worthless. This is to the woman that is made to feel lifeless. This is to the child that is made to feel hopeless. Read this and take courage.
Until next time,
It's Global Entrepreneurship Week, and I thought in light of that it would be great to share why I left "yeye" (a colloquial African term for lousy ) boys and began 'corporate flirting'. Yes ladies, as 2018 begins to come to a close, let's also bring to a close heartbreak, time-wasting and joblessness. I want each of you ladies to start thinking about "how you are going to secure the bag" and start taking productive steps towards that.
The most successful people have mastered the essence of personal branding. The personal brand or legacy, I'm sure
a lot of females want to project is the determined, strong, intelligent and witty individual that commands the room when she enters. Excuse my potential ignorance, but how are we achieving this by crying over Adebiyi who hasn't responded to the text we sent him three days ago or still trying to convince Billy to love us, after he clearly stated he didn't want a relationship on the first date. Not only I'm very sorry if you are triggered by my previous statement, I would like to inform you to change your mindset towards that of self value, to the point where it will form a vital element of eventually generating lucrative income. I will now show you how to use the strategies you probably tried on 'Adebiyi' and 'Billie', to enhance your 'corporate flirting.'
1) Look your best!
When you are going to interviews, business meetings or coffee catch ups, look and smell good! When you look good, you feel good and will most likely project confidence. Come with ironed, covered up and appropriate attire. Besides people engage well with what meets the eye, so take this on board.
2) Introduce yourself
As basic as it sounds, it is very common that in the midst of people you turn shy and want to stay at the back. Well here's a fun fact...nobody can see you there. Do not act like a hyperactive attention seeker, but confidently and calmly exchanging names, a little about yourself and a handshake won't hurt.
3) Strategic positioning
Ladies you all know what I mean by this. Be at the right place, at the right time for the right opportunities, otherwise you won't get them. Being on time shows organisation and a readiness, an important element of a personal brand. Be available when people want to talk to you with upright positioning, eye contact and a ready ear.
This is the most effective way to implement corporate flirting as you need to have the ability to amend conversations so you can get what you want in terms of deals, collaborations etc. This comes with experience and time, as you have to learn to be not selfish, but act in ways that would be mutually beneficial.
5) You need a mentor
When Adebiyi and Billie screw up, who do we turn to? Our friends, right? It works exactly the same in the work or business world only here a mentor works very effectively in giving direction and suggesting ways we can improve our current position.
Who needs dates when there are tons of corporate events available! This is a fantastic way of networking, getting out of your comfort zone and getting to know what is out there. You will always learn a thing or two and hey even if you don't, at least the canapés tasted good.
I hope we can join forces in making "yeye" boys a thing of the past ! Feel free to comment some more tips below!
Until next time,